Thursday, March 3, 2011

Puppy Love


I never thought I'd be able to do it, but there, I've done it. After five long years of constant badgering by my daughter MG, we finally took the plunge and now we are a family of five. No, no worry. I am not pregnant, and I also haven't adopted another child. We have a dog.

Yes. A five-month old white poodle called Lucky who looks more like a fluffy toy than a real dog. It is even surprising he barks sometimes... He is very sweet and I have to admit, I am in love.

My husband MM is amused by the dog and has taken upon himself to take him out early morning.

My boy MB, who didn't really want the dog, now hugs him, kisses him on his head and rolls around with him on the floor. MB is generally not very effusive, but he as effusive than he's ever been with our puppy, Lucky.

My daughter MG was the one who wanted the dog. For five years, since before she was five, she asked me every day for a puppy. When she was seven she was already searching the Internet for places and people who sold or gave away dogs: she'd write the number on a piece of paper and bring it to me. "Call them," she's say. "They sell/give away dogs."

Her love for dogs was unhesitant: she loved all kinds. She'd bring me pictures of the cutest dogs but also of ugly mutts and say: "Lets go get him."

I demurred. At the age of five we pierced her years as a bribe for not getting her a dog, and after that we found other ways to stall her. But she was not daunted. She just kept coming: with the pictures and the phone numbers.

In the end I ceded. "We'll have to get her a dog," I told MM. "It will do her a world of good. All this unlimited love etc etc etc they always say a dog gives."  MM was hesitant. Both he and I never grew up with a dog. I hate the way dogs smell. I hate it when they bark.

When I told a vet we were thinking of getting a dog, I said: "I want a dog that doesn't shed, doesn't smell, and doesn't bark."

He answered dryly: "Get a toy dog."

In the end we broke and settled on a poodle (a toy poodle to be specific). They apparently don't shed and don't smell (I'm not sure about the smelling - I can definitely smell him). And luckily our Lucky doesn't bark much (not yet, anyway).

When we picked up the puppy three months ago, MG, MB and me, MB was hesitant. MG chose him out of the litter (he was just two months old then) and hugged him to her all the way home in the car. She decided what his name would be: "We are lucky to have him, and he is lucky to have us," she said.

That first night we faithfully followed instructions: put him in a separate room with newspapers and closed the door. Then we went to bed. But the puppy cried and cried and wailed. It was heartbreaking and we were all very upset. In the end my 10-year old MG, who is, I can now say, definitely a natural with dogs, said defiantly: "That's it. I am bringing him to my room." And she brought him to her room despite our protests that he would poo and pee all over her room. "He is lonely and he is missing his brothers and sisters, don't you understand?" she chided us. She sat down on the floor near him and consoled him lovingly, softly and with a tenderness that was heartbreaking - giving us a fast forward look at the kind of love she'd be pouring onto her own future children.

Ever since he has become a full member of our family, but MG is Lucky's Mum. He follows her wherever she goes, sleeps in her room, shadows her constantly. He cries when she leaves and jumps when she comes home. She can do anything to him - roll with him, push him away, laugh with him, cuddle him, shower him and comb his poodle hair and he'll just come back for more. When MG is away he shadows MB, and when both of them are away, he shadows me.

We have got over (we hope) the poo-ing and peeing stage and because we have a house with a garden, taking him for walks is not so critical. So all in all we are happy we took the plunge. The only thing is....MG has started a new campaign now....believe it or not...for a second dog. That is definitely not going to happen. I think.  

Photo credit: http://ladyepuriru.blogspot.com/2010/03/poodle-or-pug.html

Monday, February 28, 2011

Milano Memories - a short story by ME

She used to be my Uncle Adam’s girlfriend and she was the first Italian woman I ever met. I was seven at the time. An Indian girl who moved to Italy with her Jewish Indian family in 1969.


Sandra came with Uncle Adam to pick us up at the airport. Her brown lush mink coat reached just above her knees. Below were a set of slim ankles encased in transparent skin-colored tights and black, high-heeled pumps. Her ankles were misleading. Looking only at them you’d expect their owner to be tall and thin. Sandra was tall, but on the plumpish side. She had a big homely bosom, tightly ensconced under her soft, silk, flowered shirt. Her arms were large and soft, her bottom plentiful but firm. She had a loud, booming, no-nonsense laugh. Her blue, mascara-rimmed eyes crinkled when she laughed, lighting up her round face. Her short chestnut-brown curls were blown back to reveal a wide forehead yet unlined with worry. Her thin lips were lipstick red, reflecting the colors of her large ruby earrings.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Love and marriage?

A friend of ours got married this week.
He is 47. He married a 35-year-old woman. They got married, just like Carrie Bradshaw and Big of Sex and The City, in the City Hall of New York. Just the two of them and a witness friend who also took pictures. They sent us the link to the pictures which they posted on the Internet and also uploaded a very short sweet video of the ceremony on You Tube.

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Good night, little flower

I was in the bread shop buying bread. After a long day of meetings in Jerusalem I was now back in Tel Aviv. As I was standing at the counter, placing my order, I heard the song. Playing softly in the background. For a moment I thought I was mistaken. But then no. There it was. And even before realising it, there I was, softly singing along with it, suddenly remembering all the words I didn't know I knew.

It is the Italian song of singer songwriter Francesco De Gregori, "Bounanotte Fiorellino". Goodnight flower. About someone who wishes goodnight to his love/wife who is far away. I had forgotten about the song. I don't think I've heard it since I left Italy, at the age of 18.

But suddenly I was awash with memories. Teenagers sitting around the bonfire with a guitar, humming along to this song, boys and girls hugging to keep warm in the cool Italian night. He wasn't even my favorite artist. It was just a song I loved and forgot about. Until today.

So here is the link to the song on You Tube. I looked it up when I came home and I've been listening to it ever since. Just so you can hear what I listened to many years ago and heard again today. Goodnight to all of you. I hope you enjoy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cIkosxIvEQw&feature=related

Photo credit: http://i.telegraph.co.uk/telegraph/multimedia/archive/00676/teenagers-newquay_676811c.jpg

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Grazie Mille, Mr Giorgio Armani

Reminiscing about my son MB's Bar Mitzvah, (see the previous two posts), has brought back fond memories of the preparations towards that big day and also a story about the dress I chose to wear at the dancing party we held for family and friends after the synagogue.
So here's the story.

I needed a dress. A party dress. A happy dress. And whenever I need a happy dress the person I think of is Giorgio. Yes. Giorgio. Giorgio Armani. The Italiano.

Monday, September 20, 2010

Bar Mitzva Story: a retrospective of the big day - part II

Ok. Here comes part two. We were at the synagogue. And indeed, it proved to be the perfect choice.
But let me first tell you what happened to my little sweet-faced baby on his road to becoming a Bar Mitzvah. Because 13 is apparently not just a randomly selected age. It appears to be a real watershed in terms of boys growing up.

Because here is what happened to MB:

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Bar Mitzvah story: a retrospective of the big day-part 1


A few days before we celebrated the Jewish New Year it occurred to me that we were exiting my son's Bar Mitzvah year. It also occurred to me that most of the posts in this blog have been about My Girl (MG) and not much has been said about My Boy (MB). So this one is for you, MB.

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Happy new year

Jews all over the world will be celebrating the Jewish new year tonight.

In half an hour here in Tel Aviv I will light my candles with my family and then we will go over to my mother's house for a family meal. Delicious food, always, and many many people.

Unlike secular new years' celebrations, on December 31, the Jewish New Year is a time for introspection,  leading up to the 10 Yamim Noraim, or 10 days of Awe, that close with the Yom Kippur, a day of  fasting and reckoning in which Jews ask forgiveness to peers and to God for all their sins.

I have spent the morning cooking as tomorrow I have about 20 people over for lunch - but I have taken the easy way out and the meal will be salads and cold cuts.

So now I am sitting in my living room. Surrounded by flowers sent to my by my best friend (a girl) and by my husband and children. I am waiting for everyone to come to the living room to light the festival candles. They are having their showers - and I'm listening to some music. All smells clean. All is quiet. All is good.

As Benjamin Franklin (apparently) said: “Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each New Year find you a better man” (or woman).


Happy new year to all of us.


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Friday, September 3, 2010

When do you delete?

It is probably due to my growing older, but I find myself more and more being confronted by a dilemma that involves new technology and the natural process of life, or rather death.

Monday, July 19, 2010

We're off. China here we come!



Just to let you know we are off on holiday. China. Hopefully I'll be able to keep you posted on experiences from whereever I am. All is packed and we are ready to go. Beijing and Yunan Province are our destinations. I am very excited and a bit nervous too...everything will be so new. So bye for now.

Photo caption: Beijing
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Wednesday, July 14, 2010

That damn "M" word

Ok. Here I am again. Sorry for not having updated for so long, but it has been hectic. I had a work project that never ended. At the same time my in-laws visited from abroad for three weeks. Then the children finished school and I started making plans to refurbish the house. I am NOT looking forward to that. We are also going on holiday to China (believe it or not) in a few days. So the buildup of all this has been very big.

Anyway. In the time I have been away from this blog something major has happened.

I have become officially old.

Friday, June 18, 2010

He took our breath away!


Thank you Sir Elton John for an enchanting, exciting, and emotional night. You took our breath away indeed.

To see excerpts of the evening click on this link to the YNET news website. It is in hebrew, but the pictures say it all.

http://www.ynet.co.il/articles/0,7340,L-3906877,00.html

Photo by Yaron Berner, Ynet.

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Welcome to Israel, Sir Elton John

I can't wait. Tonight is the night. Elton John is landing in Israel in a couple of hours and will be performing tonight in the Ramat Gan Stadium. Thousands of fans, among them my family and myself, will be pouring down the streets and making their way on foot, bike, taxis, buses and motorbikes to the stadium. Cellphones and maybe candles in hand, we will illuminate the warm night and show him how much we love him and his songs.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

I'm rooting for you, Steve Jobs


A day after the CEO of Apple, Steve Jobs, launched the new and apparently sexy and upgraded iPhone 4, I would like to bring to your attention an inspiring speech he made in June 2005, at Stanford University. I saw and heard his speech recently online through the website Ted.com. This is the link. You should definitely have a look.  http://www.ted.com/talks/steve_jobs_how_to_live_before_you_die.html

The speech is amazing because Steve Jobs is, obviously, a very special person. But it is also a special speech for me, because Steve Jobs was adopted as a baby. I didn't know that until I heard his speech.

So Mr Jobs. Thank you for your Apple Macs and your iPhones. And thank you for being a person adopted children and their families can look to for inspiration and hope. I hope for you what I hope for my adopted little girl, MG. That you managed to keep your back upright when the adoption bag tried to pull you down. And that along with your success you are also a happy person.

Picture caption: Apple CEO Steve Jobs holding the iPhone 4 at Worldwide Developers Conference 2010.
Picture credit: Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Steve_Jobs_Headshot_2010-CROP.jpg

Friday, June 4, 2010

Tortelloni alla Meneghina

Yesterday night, five years ago exactly, my father passed away. On a Monday night at 8.30 pm.

He passed away in a rehabilitation center. My mother and sister MSH were with him. I had just walked out of his room to say goodbye to one of my Aunts. The doctors had warned us his time was up, but of course one is never ready for death.

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Milano, I'm back!

Well, here I am. In Milano, Italy. The city in which I grew up. The city in which every corner has a little memory. We came here, MM, MB, MG and me, together with my older sister and her two children for a long weekend. It was holiday in Tel Aviv so we decided to treat the kids to a little bit of Milanese life. My kids hadn’t been here for over two years, and neither had I.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Happy Mother's Day


On the tail of Mother's day, which some parts of the world celebrated this week, I have to tell you about an article I read in the New York Times (NYT) on May 6. (By the way. Mother's day in Israel has been renamed “family day”, in which the whole family is celebrated and not just the mother).


Written by NYT columnist Anand Giridharadas, the article, titled “New leaders find strength in diversity”, talks about an emergent breed of hybrid leaders – those who belong to “multiple worlds and who carry those worlds with them.”

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

By the way...

By the way...the gas masks arrived yesterday with a courier without a flaw. I didn't tip him. I put them in the basement, in our bomb shelter room. The children do not know of their arrival. Now I have to order one for my Mum.

By the way...MG decided finally to leave her dancing class. "I'm not that good Mummy," she said. When a dancing school manager called yesterday to ask why she left, MG politely told her on the phone she does not want to dance anymore. I explained to the manager, in a very civil tone, that MG doesn't want to contine dancing because she thinks she is not good enough. "Unfortunately, that's the message she got from you all along. So now she has decided to leave," I told the woman. "And what is a real pity is that she is leaving with the feeling that she is not a good dancer, which is a shame. Because she may not want to try out any other dancing class." The manager asked us to reconsider, saying they will help MG all they can so she can learn the steps. I said we'd think about it. But MG has moved on already. She doesn't look back.

Photo caption: Lot's wife looked back - Mount Sodom.
http://israelinsider.ning.com/photo/lots-wife-mount-sodom?context=popular

Friday, May 7, 2010

"A Brand New Life" - a heart-breaking South Korean movie about adoption

  
You come out of the movie “A Brand New Life” by French-Korean film maker Ounie Lecomte with the same feeling you get after you’ve read a great book – a haunting bitter-sweet warmth that stays with you for days.

This 2009 autobiographical movie, debuting in Tel Aviv this week, is about nine-year old Jinhee. The first scene depicts her sitting on a bike hugging her father’s back, going on a trip. We don’t get to see the father’s face. He rides her to a cake store, tells her to pick the best cake on sale, and then bikes to an orphanage run by Catholic nuns. He leaves Jinhee there, without an explanation and without a goodbye.

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

A phone conversation this morning in Israel

This is how my phone conversation went this morning (more or less).

Girl: "Hello, this is the Israel Postal Company. How can I help you?"

ME: "Umm, it's about the gas masks."

Girl: "Yes?"

ME: "I need to order my gas masks."